{"id":635,"date":"2013-06-06T22:41:24","date_gmt":"2013-06-06T21:41:24","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.thduggie.com\/thduggies_blog\/?p=635"},"modified":"2013-06-06T22:41:24","modified_gmt":"2013-06-06T21:41:24","slug":"i-just-need-you-to-listen","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.thduggie.com\/thduggies_blog\/2013\/i-just-need-you-to-listen","title":{"rendered":"I just need you to listen"},"content":{"rendered":"

I recently came across a video<\/a> dramatizing the stereotypical difference between the girl wanting the guy to empathize and the guy itching to provide the solution to her problem.\u00c2\u00a0 It’s mostly well acted and ended up getting the nod of the vimeo staff – but if you scroll down to read the gushing comments, it becomes apparent that the vast majority of commenters and fans are male.<\/p>\n

Here’s my take: Males love it, because the film completely misrepresents the usual situation in which a woman asks for the man to merely listen.\u00c2\u00a0 The way I understand it, by the time the woman looks for empathy for her problem, she’s already pondered it for a while and rejected the apparently obvious solutions as faulty (and the problems are never as straightforward as a nail in the forehead).\u00c2\u00a0 While the man is trying to show his support by being helpful as he knows how – problem solving – when he says “Try Windex, honey,” she hears: “I can fix in ten seconds the problem you’ve been losing sleep over for the last two nights.\u00c2\u00a0 Clearly, you’re not very smart, but that’s ok, I’ve got your back.”<\/p>\n

How would a guy react to that kind of sentiment?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

I recently came across a video dramatizing the stereotypical difference between the girl wanting the guy to empathize and the guy itching to provide the solution to her problem.\u00c2\u00a0 It’s mostly well acted and ended up getting the nod of the vimeo staff – but if you scroll down to read the gushing comments, it becomes apparent that the vast majority of commenters and fans are male. Here’s my take: Males love it, because the film completely misrepresents the usual situation in which a woman asks for the man to merely listen.\u00c2\u00a0 The way I understand it, by the time the woman looks for empathy for her problem, she’s already […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[4,21],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.thduggie.com\/thduggies_blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/635"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.thduggie.com\/thduggies_blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.thduggie.com\/thduggies_blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.thduggie.com\/thduggies_blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.thduggie.com\/thduggies_blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=635"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.thduggie.com\/thduggies_blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/635\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":636,"href":"https:\/\/www.thduggie.com\/thduggies_blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/635\/revisions\/636"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.thduggie.com\/thduggies_blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=635"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.thduggie.com\/thduggies_blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=635"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.thduggie.com\/thduggies_blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=635"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}